How To Fill Your Soul When It Is Sad

He feels sad, alone, despondent… sometimes things are not the way he would like them to be. Things don’t go well at work, he isn’t happy with his partner, and sometimes he argues with his parents too often. He begins to worry, because grief is increasingly acting as if it is at home in his head, like a bird that has found a nest. He does not know how to free himself from the pain that invades him day and night.

When he is sad, he decides not to leave the house, not to talk to anyone and is only willing to lose himself in his own thoughts. And again and again he thinks to himself, ‘I have to change this. I can’t keep going like this every time something happens to me. Yes, life is sad sometimes, but I can’t let it take control of me’…

Sometimes you feel a great sadness…

Sometimes you feel a tremendous sadness that invades your soul, a sadness that is difficult to explain. Perhaps this sadness is aroused because things are not going well at work, with your partner, with your children or worse… because each of these problems is somewhat involved.

You really can’t avoid this bad feeling. And even though everyone keeps telling you to cheer yourself up and get out of the house, you just can’t do it and you think to yourself, “Yeah, sure, it’s nice and easy to give advice, you could spend a while should be in my shoes.”

You can’t do it, you have no urge at all, you drown in your sadness, it takes you completely over. However, how can you change this if the situation continues? Can we really learn to feel better about ourselves when we are sad? And how can we do this then? Maybe it’s easier than you might think or, on the contrary, it’s a task that takes you a while, where you have to invest time to learn new habits.

Filling the soul when it is sad

Below we share a handbook of advice to fill your soul when sadness takes over you. The only real requirement is the desire to feel better about yourself…

• Surround yourself with people who really make you feel good and distance yourself from people who make you feel bad. You are the most important. You know the kind of people who can comfort you with just a few words, who can make you laugh without doing anything? If so, enjoy them, their company. Friends can be an ointment that heals your wounds.

• Look for people you really like.  Fill your life with things you really like… Do you like cooking, reading, traveling, dancing…? These are all great ways to free yourself from your grief. When the mind is entertained by something else, we often forget our pain.

• Practice a sport. Exercise has been shown to promote the release of endorphins that make us happier. Therefore, people who practice a sport have less tendency to be sad.
• Give in to a whim. A little whim can help us be happier and more content. Eating candy or chocolate, buying yourself something nice, etc…
• Get out and have fun. When you’re sad, don’t sit on the couch all day and think about your pain all the time; get off that couch, get dressed, make sure you look good and go for a walk. You will see that your mood will be completely different when you come back. Sometimes our pajamas are our worst enemy.
• Do not demand too much of yourself or others. Learn to make fewer demands. When our expectations of something or someone are too high, we are more likely to be disappointed.

• Learn to give up, but with pleasure. Begin to understand that life is not all about good moments; there will also be bad moments and we should not make these moments bigger than they are. When these moments occur, forget them right away and keep moving forward.
• Try to change the things you can and don’t like about your life. If you have something in your hands, be brave and change it. Are you unhappy with your partner? Do you hate your job? Try to free yourself from the things you don’t like and start over.
• Don’t think so much. We all think way too much. Sometimes we make ourselves sad by thinking about things from the past or things that haven’t happened at all. The past is the past and the future is yet to come. Therefore, focus on the present.

Sadness is an innate emotion for all of us. However, learning not to house this sadness in our heads is a challenge that we should all take on.