Please Others? It’s Time To Look At Yourself

Has pleasing others become more important than being yourself? Have you become someone you are not so that people will like you? When you sacrifice who you are, you lose yourself to such an extent that you forget who you really are. You no longer know what you like or what you want. You have then given the key to your life into the hands of other people.

When you sacrifice who you really are and become who others want you to be, you pay a high price for gaining approval and a false sense of appreciation. Because the truth is they don’t like you but a fake you. You’re just showing them a mirage.

You have not yet realized what life means. Life is not about seeing who sacrifices the most so that others will accept them. But life is all about discovering yourself and then giving the best of yourself. If you decide to be who others want you to be, you will be very vulnerable to their manipulations. You will also experience the uncomfortable feeling caused by trying to be someone you are not.

Pleasing others and sacrificing who you are makes you start to suffer

From the moment you sacrifice who you really are, suffering will become an ever-present companion in your life. Your eyes will look closely at the people around you. You will feel filled with worry and guilt. In addition, you will be in a constant state of vigilance, especially in view of possible criticism and disapproval.

Instead of making you happy, this situation can cause you to spend nights crying. Anxiety and stress will be present without ceasing. “You must…,” “You must be…” are the thoughts that fill your mind. You don’t know where these demands come from and why you feel so excited.

It seems like your opinion doesn’t count. In fact, your opinion doesn’t even exist anymore! All that matters is what others say. Moreover, you never even question the way you act towards others. You give everything! But… have you ever wondered why you don’t feel good about yourself? Why do you feel like you’re out of place when you’ve done everything you’ve been asked to do?

Please others, find the balance

You have been taught from a young age that you should please your neighbor and that pleasing others is important. When other people need it, you lend a hand. You offer your support and encouragement. You understand their shortcomings.

You are also very flexible towards others. Sometimes you even forgive them huge mistakes. But it seems like you don’t treat yourself the same way. You hit yourself. You are very demanding of yourself. You want to be perfect. Because you think that if you don’t do things right, others won’t accept you or love you.

You also think that if you say “no”, others will reject and hate you. You even think you will lose friends as a result. But what would happen if one of your friends says “no”? You would understand, wouldn’t you? Then why not allow yourself to just be who you are? To say what you think and what you want? Why not allow yourself to be honest once and for all instead of always pleasing others?

Often we have a hazy idea of ​​how we should be. That is why we put our own needs aside. But really, we are the only protagonists in our lives. Our focus is lost. We’re taking the wrong road. We will pay a high price for this.

Because we don’t take care of ourselves. All we care about is pleasing others. We deceive ourselves, pretend and lie. And we all do this for the sake of a few smiles and a few compliments. What the hell are we doing?

It’s time to boost your confidence

When you sacrifice who you really are to please others that way, chances are your confidence will be shattered. You depend on others to be happy. And even then it doesn’t work.

What would happen if the friend you stooped to stopped talking to you? What would happen if your partner left you? What if your boss fires you tomorrow? In all these situations, you should face it on your own. You have to find the person you were, the real you that you sacrificed for a handful of smiles that others gave you. It is the one you have denied.

There are times in life when you have no choice but to pick up the broken pieces. These broken pieces are the result of you giving yourself little attention. This is the only way to boost your confidence.

Taking care of yourself is not selfish. Helping yourself in times of despair and sadness is not. It is completely allowed that you want to be alone and not see anyone. You have to pamper yourself, listen to yourself and be yourself.

Pleasing others wastes time that is totally unprofitable. It makes you vulnerable. Toxic people can use it to manipulate you whenever they want. Forget to always take care of others and spend your time taking care of yourself.